Take 15 minutes a day as “sacred time,” to grieve in a “sacred space,” which is a special place or altar that you set up just for grieving.

Bring in pictures, mementos and anything that is symbolic of the relationship with the person you love who died. During this sacred time you can:

• Journal
• Play music
• Light a candle (to honor your grief and let yourself know it is now time to release painful feelings)
• Pray
• Invite your spiritual connection (so you are surrounded by love)
• Movement (through dance or song)

When you go into this sacred place, you can safely process your grief:

• Imagine the person you died and talk to your beloved.
• Cry and say all the things you wanted to say.
• Write the messages that were left unsaid.

By going into your sacred space, you are giving yourself a defined location and set time to fully feel emotion and grief. Using small chunks of time every day gives yourself a cue that this is the time to honor, express, and feel pain in a safe environment.

The grieving part of you knows it will have space and time each day to let out emotions to begin healing the mind, body and spirit. Healing is not an overnight process, it is a daily cleansing of pain, it is a daily healing of your life. When you are in your sacred place, close your eyes and imagine your loved one in your mind or look at a photo. Imagine your beloved responding to you as you talk to him or her. This two-way communication provides powerful conversation and connection. When you are not in your sacred space and time, you can still continue this ongoing dialogue with your loved one. This is a powerful tool to connect with the person you miss when you need comfort. The key is to not let your grief go unprocessed. Feels want to be felt. That is their sole purpose.

Action
Decide the location of your sacred space and the time period you'll use it.
Gather one or two meaningful objects to add to your sacred space.

Reflection
How will you create and use a sacred space? What resistance do you have to this practice?

Grief Support Caregiver
If you are a grief support caregiver, discuss ideas about locations for "sacred space" as well as activities for "sacred time."
Discuss resistance that participants may have to this healing practice.